INFO FOR TEENS
WHAT IS SEXUAL VIOLENCE?
- Sexual violence occurs when a person is forced or manipulated by another person to participate in any sexual act of any kind.
- It can happen to anyone regardless of their age, race, social class, religion or appearance.
- Attackers can use physical force, threats, intimidation, manipulation, alcohol or drugs to make the victims feel afraid or unable to refuse them.
- Anyone below the age of 18 cannot consent to any form of sexual activity with an adult.
WHO ARE THE ATTACKERS?
The attacker could be:
- A family member
- A friend
- An acquaintance
- A boyfriend
- An uncle
- A stranger
IF YOU ARE A SURVIVOR OF SEXUAL ASSAULT, YOU MIGHT:
- Feel afraid, anxious, sad, or depressed.
- Feel ashamed, betrayed, guilty and confused.
- Feel like you have no friends or that your friends won’t believe you.
- Want to hurt someone else or yourself.
- Feel angry and desire to take steps to get revenge.
- Feel helpless to stop the violence if it continues.
- Feel hopeless about whether anything can be done.
- Feel bad about yourself or your body.
- Lose your appetite and start losing weight.
- Start performing badly in school.
- Withdraw from your friends and regular activities.
- Feel like no one will understand what you’re going through.
Have you experienced any form of sexual violence?
- Tell your parents a relation or a trusted family friend.
- Go to the hospital. The treatment will protect you against HIV, other sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancy.
- Please do not shower, change clothes or clean up in any way before going to the hospital.
- Report the matter to the nearest police station.
- If you want help deciding what to do, call our toll free line on 0800 THEEIGHT or visit us at no. 1A Kola Adeyina close, Lekki Phase 1.
- If you want to visit us but cannot afford the transportation, please call and we will pick you up.
- All visits and calls are confidential. Your secret is safe with us.
HELP SOMEONE ELSE
If your friend tells you she has been abused, remember that it is not her fault.
- Listen patiently and don’t judge her.
- Offer your support and encouragement.
- Get her to talk to an adult and get medical attention.
- Even if your friend does not really want to, talk to an adult you trust about it.
HERE ARE SOME TIPS TO KEEP YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS SAFE
- Do not walk alone in dark and lonely places.
- Do not go out with or visit people you don’t trust.
- Do not take food or drinks from strangers.
- Do not enter accept lifts from strangers.
Nothing in what you say, the way you look, where you are, or who you are with gives anyone the right to hurt you or force you to participate in any sexual act.